The Hidden Forces within Yourself: Understanding Negative Core Beliefs

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Thoughts like "I don't deserve love" or "I'm not good enough" are not just passing worries—they are negative core beliefs. These deeply rooted thoughts influence how we see ourselves and the world, often without us even realising it. Have you ever wondered why these beliefs are resistant to change? Let’s dive into the hidden forces behind these beliefs and discover how they impact your thoughts, emotions, and actions.

This is What Happens to Your Body This No Nut November

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To nut or not to nut? In an interview conducted by Buro Malaysia, Rekindle's sexologist Andrea Koh gives us the lowdown on No Nut November and its effects on our wellbeing.

The Biggest Misconceptions Men Have About Sex, According To Sexologist Andrea Koh

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There are many misconceptions we may have about sex that affect our views toward ourselves, our partners and relationships. In an interview conducted by Buro Malaysia, Rekindle's sexologist Andrea Koh sets the record straight and debunks some common sex myths.

Rekindle Podcast Episode 2: What are Psychological Assessments? (Interview with a Clinical Psychologist)

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We are back with Episode 2 of the Rekindle Podcast! Join Dr Johnben as he speaks with the newest member of Rekindle's Clinical Team, Arman, who is a Clinical Psychologist. We discuss about what a Clinical Psychologist does, how it is different from other psychological professions, and explore the types of psychological assessments and the domains and disorders they cover.

Rekindle Podcast Episode 1: Interview with a Sexologist

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In Rekindle’s very first podcast, Dr Johnben Loy speaks with Andrea Koh, Rekindle Academy’s Senior Clinical Intern. In addition to her Masters of Professional Counselling, Andrea is also a sexologist. We find out more about Andrea’s journey, and ask the interesting questions about sex: what are some myths, misconceptions, and stigmas, how Malaysians approach the topic of sex, and how sexual issues affect our relational health.

Map Directions: Finding your Way to Rekindle Therapy from Jalan Sri Hartamas 22

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Having trouble finding parking during peak hours? Here is a set of directions to help you get to us from Jalan Sri Hartamas 22 as quickly and safely as possible!

Rekindle Academy Clinical Internship (2023)

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Starting in 2022, Rekindle Academy is offering a newly-structured intensive 8-month (2-semester) graduate clinical internship programme where clinical interns conduct therapy with clients under supervision and receive training from senior experienced therapists. This blogpost provides comprehensive information on our programme content, duration, audience, and application process.

BET'RR: Self-Awareness & Mental Wellbeing

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In this article, our clinical director shares a simple yet robust model for self-improvement he calls "BET'RR" (pronounced “better”). It stands for Body – Emotions – Thoughts – Reactions/Responses. Through this approach,  we can develop greater self-awareness, which in turn will help us to make better choices towards a sustainable state of mental wellbeing.

Troubled? Try Journaling

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Journaling is one of the best self-care activities you can do for yourself. When you are troubled and have no one to talk to, your journal can become your best friend and personal therapist. In this post, I would like to teach you a simple and effective way to engage in expressive journaling. The exercise itself will only take 10 minutes.

TAKING CARE OF YOUR COUPLE RELATIONSHIP DURING THIS "PANDEMIC SEASON"

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Lockdown, quarantine, movement control order: all words we have heard too much in the past couple of days. When you are in close proximity with someone 24/7, little grievances can all too quickly become big mountains! Let’s have a look at some of the best tips to help keep your relationship with your partner secure and strong. 

20 TIPS TO MAKE THE MOST OF FAMILY & WORK FROM HOME

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Ever since news of the COVID-19 virus broke out and the number of infected people in Malaysia began increasing, people have been stressing out about the well being of themselves and their family members. So what can we do to relieve some of these pressures and maybe even to create some fun memories with the family during this time?

HOW DO I KNOW THERAPY IS WORKING?

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Sometimes, clients are in so much distress that they wonder if therapy is actually working. This can happen when people are struggling to recover from post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), grief and loss, and especially the pain of relationship infidelity or marital affairs. A client once asked me, “if the pain is still there, how can you know if you are improving?”

WHEN THEY LEAVE – 5 WAYS TO DEAL WITH REJECTION

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As humans, we are wired to connect with each other. However, this longing can be difficult especially when a relationship dissolves. Especially in a committed romantic relationship, a breakup can affect our self-esteem, mood, and even health. This is because coming out of a romantic relationship may make us question ourselves.

HEALING AFTER INFIDELITY

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Discovering that your partner has cheated on you can be one of the most excruciating experiences you can face. Many people in the throes of trying to recover from a partner’s affair go through an agonising time. Although every couple’s experience is uniquely challenging, there are some similar patterns to how recovery takes place.

3 LESSONS ON HAPPINESS

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The word is out! Based on possibly the longest research study on adult development ever conducted, we now know what contributes to human happiness. It is not money. It is not fame. So what is it?

海外で生活していく中で

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現在マレーシアにおける日本人居住者は2万人強と言われています（2013年10月）。特に都心においては日本人が住みやすい環境がずいぶん整い、生活に大きな支障をきたすことはないでしょう。それでも慣れ親しんだ日本を離れ、言葉や文化、気候、衛生観念、ビジネス習慣も違う環境で生活していくことは、これまでと違った困難に直面することになります。

HOW TO HANDLE AWKWARD “INTERROGATIONS” AT FAMILY GATHERINGS

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Chinese New Year is just around the corner and with it comes relatives with the well-meaning barrage of questions.“Got boyfriend already, ah?” “Aiyah, why no children yet?” “You lost your job?” For most, this flurry of questions is normal but what about those who have just suffered a relationship break-up, dropped out of school, or lost a job? Or those who are still, despite trying hard, unable to find a life-partner or have children of their own? What might family gatherings be like for them?

THE ‘AEIOU’ TO MAKING CAREER DECISIONS WITH YOUR KIDS

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The question “What career should I pick?” is a daunting question especially for 16-18 year olds as they exit high school and start looking into college or university programs. There is much riding on making the right choice especially with the prices of good education increasing. Many parents and children struggle with making this decision. During this period, there is a high risk of disagreement and conflict as the clash of minds, wills, and personalities take place because of the arduous and often difficult task of choosing a career path. That being said, there is hope! Here are the AEIOU’s to making career decisions with your teens:

HOW TO PROTECT YOUR MARRIAGE FROM EXPATRIATION STRESS

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Some time back, I met a British expat who had moved from Beijing to Kuala Lumpur with his partner. He learned about my occupation as a marriage and family therapist and asked, “Do you think moving to a different country with your partner can inject a healthy fresh-start to your relationship?” I replied, “It depends.”